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(got interrupted and had to be) Listening to: my Ex explain why he is not now and never should have been obligated to pay any child support for our biological daughter
For each view in your line of sight, there are always many more views that cannot be seen. That is, unless you look for them. Some one once told me that he could see things from all the angles that existed to a situation. That was one of the things that he considered a gift, and periodically a curse. Each day I experience something that shows me the truth of many angles being attached to every view.
Recently I had a discussion – disagreement – argument – talking to – with a female. It was never a balanced conversation because we were looking from two different angles. She was fighting for a lover; I was fighting for a friend. She was fighting for the man she sees; I was fighting for the man I know he is.
Sometimes when you win, you lose. Sometimes when you lose, you lose it all.
*thc* But I guess that has to be Okay.
Today I was speaking with a friend of mine that I haven’t seen in about two months. During the conversation she invited me to her birthday party that is planned for February 16th. Only because I was curious I asked her if she had actually planned on inviting me before she saw me. Her response was that I’ve kept myself out of the loop. But that isn’t true. I have been un-looped. If I don’t speak to someone, and they haven’t called, emailed, whatever, me, then they are to blame as much as myself. Aren’t they? That person hasn’t contacted me for as long as I haven’t contacted them. So how is it solely my fault? How am I keeping myself out of anything?
I know that I have a history of forgetting or neglecting to return phone calls. But, sadly, not in this case. This friend today is one of the very few that I respond to within a day if I do miss her call. Which got me to thinking…whose responsibility is it to maintain the contact to keep a friendship? Whose responsibility is it to re-connect if that contact has been ‘too long’? At what point does that lack of contact become lack of friendship? More importantly, should that be the way that one accepts as the end of a friendship?
Shouldn’t the end of the friendship occur in a manner that somehow honours the friendship that you had? Do the ends ever do that?
For each view in your line of sight, there are always many more views that cannot be seen. That is, unless you look for them. Some one once told me that he could see things from all the angles that existed to a situation. That was one of the things that he considered a gift, and periodically a curse. Each day I experience something that shows me the truth of many angles being attached to every view.
Recently I had a discussion – disagreement – argument – talking to – with a female. It was never a balanced conversation because we were looking from two different angles. She was fighting for a lover; I was fighting for a friend. She was fighting for the man she sees; I was fighting for the man I know he is.
Sometimes when you win, you lose. Sometimes when you lose, you lose it all.
*thc* But I guess that has to be Okay.
Today I was speaking with a friend of mine that I haven’t seen in about two months. During the conversation she invited me to her birthday party that is planned for February 16th. Only because I was curious I asked her if she had actually planned on inviting me before she saw me. Her response was that I’ve kept myself out of the loop. But that isn’t true. I have been un-looped. If I don’t speak to someone, and they haven’t called, emailed, whatever, me, then they are to blame as much as myself. Aren’t they? That person hasn’t contacted me for as long as I haven’t contacted them. So how is it solely my fault? How am I keeping myself out of anything?
I know that I have a history of forgetting or neglecting to return phone calls. But, sadly, not in this case. This friend today is one of the very few that I respond to within a day if I do miss her call. Which got me to thinking…whose responsibility is it to maintain the contact to keep a friendship? Whose responsibility is it to re-connect if that contact has been ‘too long’? At what point does that lack of contact become lack of friendship? More importantly, should that be the way that one accepts as the end of a friendship?
Shouldn’t the end of the friendship occur in a manner that somehow honours the friendship that you had? Do the ends ever do that?
